Hello, friends!
I’m sharing with you some of the questions that help me assess myself. Sharing this because I feel that a lot of us lack the energy to reflect on these things nowadays. Reflecting is one, taking action is another. I might add more to this list and maybe someday, I will get to answer all with honesty. 🙂
Questions, Questions, Questions
- What motivates you to do this thing? What will keep you going? What will make you pause? What will make you stop? How do you decide if you want to keep going, pause, or stop?
- How do you define a healthy relationship with yourself, others, and the community?
- How can you make your thoughts and actions aligned with how you view a healthy relationship with yourself, others, and the community?
- What are the processes that you go through internally before you react to something you see, feel, think, smell, or hear?
- Are there things in that process that you want to change? What are those? Why?
- Are there things in that process that you will not change? What are those? Why?
- Are your reactions to something you see, feel, think, smell, or hear genuinely yours, or are they influenced by external factors? How do you make sure of it?
- What do you do when your reactions are influenced by external factors? Do you validate further? Do you engage with triggers?
- What considerations are you thinking of before reacting to a stressful or anxious situation?
- How do you know if reacting or holding back is healthy and appropriate?
- If someone offends you, what is an acceptable form of apology for you? Why?
- If you offended someone unknowingly, what form of notice would be acceptable for you? Why?
- What circumstances will make you initiate an apology?
- What circumstances will make you decide that an apology is not needed?
- What circumstances will make you reject an apology?
- What happens in your thoughts and feelings when you accept someone’s apology? Do you automatically forgive? To what extent? Why?
- How do you make sure that your feelings and thoughts are stable, regardless if you are at fault or not?
- What will lead you to a stable and peaceful mind, heart, and spirit?
- What are your toxic traits/personality/practices when you are with friends? How do you know that they are toxic? Are you willing to change them? Why/why not? What can help you face these darker realities?
- What are your toxic traits/personality/practices when you are with family? How do you know that they are toxic? Are you willing to change them? Why/why not? What can help you face these darker realities?
- What are your toxic traits/personality/practices when you are alone? How do you know that they are toxic? Are you willing to change them? Why/why not? What can help you face these darker realities?
- What are your toxic traits/personality/practices when you want to feel belongingness (to a person or group of people)? How do you know that they are toxic? Are you willing to change them? Why/why not? What can help you face these darker realities?
- Why do you think you are not toxic? How do you make sure of it?
Hoping that you find value in these questions. To end this blog, here’s a quote shared by Celina of Tahan Readings:
“Asking the proper question is the central action of transformation- in fairy tales, in analysis, and in individuation. The key question causes germination of consciousness. The properly shaped question always emanates from an essential curiosity about what stands behind. Questions are the keys that cause the secret doors of the psyche to swing open.” ― Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype